Grief’s Journey: Insights from My Chat with Lynda Hugessen

As I sat down with Lynda Hugessen for her podcast “From Darkness to Love and Light” I was reminded of the profound impact grief has on our lives. Our conversation explored the depths of loss and the challenging path towards healing – a journey I know all too well.

Losing my husband Simon at the young age of 41 when I was just 39 turned my world upside down. With two young children, one with complex special needs I found myself thrust into a role I never anticipated: a widowed single mother. The darkness that enveloped me in those early days seemed overwhelming and the pain, at times unbearable.

During our chat Lynda and I explored the often-overlooked aspects of grief. It’s not just the loss of a loved one that can plunge us into mourning; it’s the loss of friendships relationships and even parts of ourselves. As we age or face health challenges we grieve for the person we once were or the future we had envisioned.

One of the most poignant moments of our discussion was about the importance of talking about those we’ve lost. Society often shies away from death, leaving those who are grieving feeling isolated and misunderstood. I shared how crucial it is to keep saying the names of those who have passed—to remember them not just with sadness but with smiles and laughter too.

Grief, I’ve learned, is not a linear process. It’s a journey with unexpected twists and turns. Some days you might feel you’ve made progress only to be blindsided by a memory or a milestone. This is normal and it’s okay. In fact it’s part of the healing process.

What struck me most during our conversation was the universal nature of grief. Whether it’s the loss of a spouse a child a parent or a friend the pain of loss touches us all. Yet despite this commonality many of us feel ill-equipped to support those who are grieving.

If you’re supporting someone through grief remember that your presence is often more powerful than words. Don’t be afraid to mention the person who has died or to ask how your friend is really doing. Sometimes just sitting in silence and being there can be the greatest comfort.

For those navigating grief themselves be patient with your journey. Healing takes time and there’s no ‘right’ way to grieve. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions arise without judgment. Seek support when you need it whether from friends family or professionals.

My conversation with Lynda reinforced my belief in the importance of sharing our stories. By opening up about our experiences with grief we not only heal ourselves but also create spaces for others to feel understood and supported.

As I continue my work as a psychotherapeutic counsellor specialising in bereavement grief and loss I’m constantly reminded of the resilience of the human spirit. From the darkest depths of despair it is possible to find light again. It may not be the same light as before but it can be equally beautiful in its own way.

If you’re struggling with grief or supporting someone who is remember that you’re not alone. There is support available and hope for healing. If you’d like to explore this further I’m here to help. Feel free to reach out for a free consultation where we can discuss how to navigate your unique journey through grief.

Remember you are stronger than you know and with the right support it is possible to find joy and meaning in life again even after profound loss.